There is no such thing as a self-made man or woman. Nobody achieves success without the influence of others. In fact, the simple fact that we are born into societies where there is free education, police protection, and other services is proof nobody truly carves their path without the help of others, past or present. Even as you work to become successful in your career and personal life, there are people who will help you in that journey. Hopefully, five of them will fill the following roles.
1. The Faithful Friend
This is the friend who believes in you and who will do anything they can to help you on your path. They are a source of encouragement. They advocate for you. They believe in you. Whenever you are feeling utterly discouraged, they are there to provide encouragement and positivity. However, if you are visualizing a saccharinely, cheery person, think again. The faithful friend gets it when you are struggling and will also make the effort to help you find solutions to any problem that you face.
2. The Straight Talker
Everybody needs a reality check. This is why everybody who wants to be successful needs a straight talker. The straight talker is brutally honest. If your perspective is out of whack and you need to take a step back, the straight talker will let you know in no uncertain terms. On the other hand, if you are in a situation where you aren’t standing up for yourself and should be, the straight talker will be your fiercest advocate and source of encouragement.
3. The Mentor
The mentor is somebody who is on the same path as you, only several steps ahead. This means that they have the benefit of hindsight. For example, you might be convinced that you know the next step to take on your path to success. If you run that by somebody who is acting as your mentor, there is a good chance that they have made that very same decision. Because of this, they can give you the benefit of their experience so that you avoid their mistakes and emulate their good choices.
4. The Positive Influence
Sometimes, you just don’t feel like you have it in you. The snooze button is too tempting, you want to skip the salad and workout in favor of pizza and Netflix, and the thought of being productive is simply a nightmare. This is where your positive influence shines. The friend who is a positive influence has the ability to motivate you when you are at the end of your rope and when you are tempted to slack off and be lazy. Even better, this friend manages to accomplish this without being preachy or annoyingly perky. Instead, they just meet you where you are and help you continue down your path.
5. The Friend in The Foxhole
This friend is often a fellow student or coworker. You and the friend in the foxhole are usually around the same age and stage in life. This means that you are both battling your way through a lot of the same experiences. You might be looking for your first jobs after graduation, or perhaps you are both struggling to balance families and careers. This is the friend you can go to when you need commiseration or when you need to brainstorm strategies and solutions.
Do you have people in your life who can fill all of these roles? If you do, that’s amazing. If you do not, don’t fret. Instead, take a look around. There may be people in your life who are more invested in you and hopeful for your success than you ever imagined.